When things fall apart, it is hard to find the initiative to get back up and find the space to start or create something new. The important thing is to get back up, even if it takes a lot of time. Making daily efforts to try again seems difficult at first, but after a while the practice of doing creates the momentum needed to move forward. In order to allow growth to take place, movement is necessary.
A body in motion, stays in motion
-Sir Isaac Newton
Some important questions to ask when there is something that may feel like it is falling apart are:
- What isn’t working?
- Is there something I can change to make it work?
- If I let go and move on from this, what are my next actions?
Be honest with yourself and take time to write out the answers. After you answer the questions, look to see if anything sticks out. Are there common themes, new revelations or is the answer clear and the writing exercise solidified your intuition? Sit with the answers, meditate on the next steps and recognize any closure that needs to take place.
Figuring out action steps can help bring your mind out of the fog but make sure to give yourself the time to process the disappointment. If it is time to move on, it’s okay to mourn the loss. Allow the healing to occur and take an active role by looking forward.
When life gives us a “no” it creates space for expansion. This is a place for possibility and dreaming. The opposite of expansion is contracting. Think about a fist releasing its grasp. This is the action most beneficial for moving on; release and expand. If contracting is happening, it holds on to pain and disappointment. Stagnation can occur and often times, resentment.
Let what needs to fall down, fall. Don’t act like Sisyphus, continually pushing a boulder up the mountain just to push against gravity once more; this was his curse. Whatever is falling apart, does not need to be a curse. Look to see the blessing in disguise. There is something waiting for this to end in order to have the space it needs to enter your life.
Let go and receive whatever may come with open arms, mind and heart. Replace resistance with cooperation. Let things come to you and keep moving forward, one step at a time.